The 3 People Hardest to Replace When you Move
Moving is fraught with challenges not the least of which is the loss of familiarity. Knowing your favorite coffee shop, the best place to snag a parking spot in a popular shopping center, how to avoid clogged traffic areas and on and on.
I’ve also discovered that there are (at least) 3 people in your life that are the hardest to replace. Let’s leave friends out of this equation because we all know they are irreplaceable.
Here’s what’s new in my world and who has been hardest to replace…so far.
An honest mechanic you trust!
My car started acting up last week. We had no idea where to go so my husband phoned our old mechanic to get his advice. After googling and checking Yelp, we narrowed it down to a guy who had ok reviews. We agreed my husband should take my car in because women are assumed to be clueless about cars. ( I am). He gave us the same suggestion our old mechanic did, but we have no faith in him yet because my husband thought that’s what the problem was too. This is still a work in progress.
A competent doctor you have faith in.
I’ve had melanoma. That diagnosis makes me neurotic about my sun protection and vigilant about getting skin checks by my dermatologist every 6 months. I was referred to a young woman had only graduated from her internship a few years ago. That makes her younger than my children! I was unsure but kept the appointment because it “was time”. Imagine my surprise to discover she is amazing! More thorough than any dermatologist I’ve ever seen, and I’ve seen a lot of them. She found a pre-cancerous spot on my forearm that I missed, which shocked me because I’m so neurotic careful. Now to find a good primary care doctor. This is still a work in progress.
A hairdresser who “gets” your hair and understands you.
My hair is baby fine, poker straight and thin. It doesn’t like to do anything but lay like a skullcap on my head. I was referred to a nice gal and we have been working to get it right for several months. I’ve shown her copious pictures of past haircuts and even a video or two but we haven’t got the formula down yet. I’m having to spend way more too much time styling my hair than I ever did, not my goal. Luckily it’s hat season but I hope we can get this right soon. This is still a work in progress.
I’m still gathering my thought’s on living in an active retirement community. I am not a fan of the weather and we aren’t sure if we will stay here but I don’t relish replacing these people again!
Who do you think you would have trouble replacing?
Thanks for reading ladies and have a great day!
I’m just curious after reading this post in Summer 2020– are you still in a retired community? If yes, what took time to feel at home there? If not, did you relocate to be closer to grandkids to a home, condo or renting ?
I have several people I’d surely miss…my hairdresser and the eyelash lady…I love those lash extensions…I’m taking a break in quarantine…using Latisse…I see no difference in my lashes and it’s been several weeks…I really enjoy the lash extensions…they make me feel a little bit glamorous…I’m not…but they do make me feel that way!!!
If it makes you feel glamorous…I say do it!!
For me, it’s a hair colorist and a doctor. I’m still driving to the city for my medical care as it’s worth the hour and a half drive. They don’t even use the same machines where I live and the ultrasound machine looks like something from a museum! I think I’ve landed on a colorist: probably just in time for me to move lol Glad you are mostly settling in! XO
Doctors can be the hardest! You’re moving again?
A Hair Dresser/Stylist will be the hardest! I have never found the “right” one for my fine curly hair. I have found a wonderfully patient and all in for my seasonal changes which is also very hard to replace, but I always leave her chair a bit underwhelmed and saddened by what could have been.
He-Man will probably think a great Handyman, and car mechanic. I leave all that up to him because I know nothing and would get ripped off blind!
I’m so glad you found a good mechanic, and a Dr. that spotted your precancerous spot on your forearm!
Things are lining up so we can move next year to our new house in NV. I hope we’re able to find good replacements for all the services we are currently using.
I’m finding it pretty tough. That’s so exciting. Good luck!!
A few years ago I needed to find a new hair stylist as mine was going to have a baby and was not going to return. I went to several people that did not meet my needs. I did find one persin that I went to for awhile but decided the prices were too far outside my budget. One day I was at the beauty supply store getting my shampoo and decided to ask them. They don’t give direct referrals but did share some names and salons. I visited them in person which was eye opening. I ended up going to the place where I had a good customer experience. That was over a year ago and it was a great decision.
Thanks for sharing Shannon, that’s a great idea. Now to find the beauty supply store here! I’d forgotten about that. I had a great one I went to!
My husband learned a long time ago that if I am not happy with my hair he is not happy.
Love this!
I was a divorced single mother for quite a few years, so even though I have remarried, I am in the habit of being a “pinch-penny”so I do my own hair, nails and get most of my clothes on sale. However, some of my friends do this, too and they even find wonderful resale items. If I do say so, they look fabulous! I do get my hair cut at Great Clips. I’ve always enjoyed putting outfits together and looking “chic”.
That’s awesome Barbara. I have cut my own hair but the results haven’t been pretty.
Without a doubt, it would be replacing our church. If we moved, it would be so difficult to find a church like mine!
I was an Army brat, then an Army nurse for 20 years, then followed my active duty husband around till he retired 9 years ago. We moved to the Big Island of Hawaii in 2009 but decided that we were on the wrong side of the island for us. So two years ago we moved again but this time we had a very specific list of wants and needs, including being near a church, sunny weather, a view of the ocean, a pool and shopping close by, 1 story house, etc. We are still driving an hour each way to see our same doctors and veterinarian but I am very happy with the hairdresser I found on my first try. It has been our best move ever and we don’t plan to leave.
Way to go Marcy! It sounds like you’ve got it just right…and in Hawaii too. Amazing