How to Wear Pastels Over 60 Without Looking Frumpy
Pastels have a reputation for being outdated, old fashioned, and hard to wear stylishly for midlife women. The truth is, they’re challenging to wear in a sophisticated and modern way at every age. When done right, pastels can brighten your look and give you a fresh, modern feel. When done wrong, they can wash you out or look outdated. The key is choosing shades that flatter your undertone, pairing them with structured pieces, and balancing them with neutrals. Since pastels are having a moment this spring, let’s look at tips for how to wear them with sophistication and confidence… and not look like an Easter basket.
If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably know I’ve never been the biggest fan of pastels. I’ve always felt they make me look older than I am. While I’m proud of my age, I don’t want my outfits to add years unnecessarily. But the more I think about it, the more I see how pastels can be fun, stylish, and beautifully timeless when worn the right way. Here are a few tips for how to wear pastels in 2025.
1. Choose the Right Pastel for Your Skin Tone
One of the secrets to wearing any color successfully, pastel or otherwise, is finding the hue that complements your skin tone. Even though pastels tend to be light and muted, they can still pack a punch if they harmonize with your complexion.
Determine Your Undertone
- If your skin has warm undertones (think peach or golden hues), go for warm pastels like soft peach, buttery yellow, or gentle coral.
- If your skin has cool undertones (bluish or pinkish hints), you may find lavender, mint green, or dusty pink more flattering.
- Neutral undertones can wear both equally well.
If you think a shade makes you look tired, opt for pastels with a little more depth. Think rich blush instead of pale pink or a soft seafoam instead of a faded mint. Sorbet shades may bring more life to your face than baby colors.
With my cool undertones and low/medium contrast level, I gravitate toward slightly more saturated pastels, such as sky blue, periwinkle, and aqua.
You may also enjoy discovering your personal contrast level.
2. Balance Pastels With Neutrals
A full pastel outfit can feel overwhelming and easily veers into frumpyville. The best way to make pastel colors look modern is by pairing them with neutrals that add depth and contrast. Mixing in neutrals also lets the pastel tones stand out without overwhelming your overall look.
- White & Cream: Pastel tones and white (or cream) create a soft, fresh palette—perfect for spring or summer. Think of a pale pink blouse paired with white trousers.
- Navy & Black: If you want to give your pastel pieces a bit more depth and structure, try pairing them with navy or black. For instance, a mint-green sweater with black pants adds a modern contrast.
- Grey & Taupe: These neutrals have a sophisticated undertone that can ground the sweetness of a pastel. A dusty lavender top with grey trousers is subtle yet refined.
I’ve always loved the combo of pink with black because the strength of the black pieces balances the softness of the pink. Coco Chanel would agree and often used them together.
3. Opt for Structured Pieces
One of the biggest pitfalls of wearing pastels is choosing overly flowy or shapeless styles. Instead, go for structured pieces that provide definition.
- Tailored Blazers and Jackets: A structured blazer in a pastel shade like dusty rose or powder blue creates a stunning focal point. Opt for a blazer that fits snugly at the shoulders, accentuates your waist, and ends at a flattering point on your hips.
- Streamlined Pants and Skirts: Wide-leg pants in pastel tones can be chic, but ensure they’re tailored at the waist and hips. For skirts, consider A-line or pencil silhouettes that skim (rather than cling to) your figure.
- Layering Strategically: Layering is excellent for adding dimension. Pair a pastel cardigan or jacket with a crisp white tank or a neutral button-down. Not only will this keep your outfit polished, but it also allows you to adapt to temperature changes effortlessly.
Even in softer fabrics like silk or cashmere, a little tailoring goes a long way in making pastels feel refined rather than overly delicate.
4. Choose Modern Fabrics
Wearing modern, high-quality fabrics makes a big difference in how your pastels appear. Cheap synthetic materials look dated in any color, so opt for natural fibers when you can.
- Cotton and Linen: These natural fibers drape beautifully. A pastel linen top or dress has an airy elegance that feels perfect for warmer weather.
- Cashmere and Merino Wool: If you’re wearing pastels in cooler months, choose cozy knits in light, soft colors. An oversized pastel cashmere sweater paired with fitted trousers offers both comfort and style.
- Silky Blends: Satin or silky blends in pastel hues can look incredibly sophisticated. Try a silky pastel blouse or scarf to instantly elevate your outfit.
5. Accessorize Thoughtfully
Accessories can make or break a pastel outfit. Pairing pastels with modern accessories makes them feel intentional and stylish rather than overly delicate. Balance the softness with bold, modern touches. Accessories can make or break your look—especially when working with delicate pastel colors.
- Statement Jewelry: Balance out soft pastel hues with a statement necklace or bold earrings. This contrast keeps your outfit from feeling overly “sweet.”
- Tasteful Scarves: A scarf with a hint of pastel can gently tie your outfit together. Look for prints that incorporate neutrals plus your chosen pastel shade for a harmonious, put-together look.
- Structured Bags: Opt for a neutral-colored bag when wearing pastel clothing, or spice it up with a pastel accessory if your outfit is primarily neutral. Either way, a structured bag (like a tote or a boxy satchel) maintains a polished vibe.
The goal is to own the pastels, not let them own you. A little edge goes a long way.
6. Use Pastels in Small Doses
If you’re hesitant to wear pastels in clothing, try introducing them in small ways, like accessories or makeup.
- A pastel handbag adds a fun pop with neutral pieces. It adds a soft touch without overwhelming your outfit.
- Soft pink or peach lipstick (depending on your skin’s undertone) brightens your face without washing you out.
- A pastel scarf adds softness to a black top or dark jacket.
Pastels don’t have to dominate your look—sometimes, a little hint is all you need. I’m slightly obsessed with my new pale, pastel blue handbag (which is structured and has silver hardware). Even when I am wearing more neutrals, the pop of color feels fresh and on-trend this spring.
Final Thoughts
Pastels can be chic, modern, and flattering when you style them with intention. If paler pastels don’t work in your color palette, try saturated pastels with more intensity. The key to looking modern in pastels is to pair them with strong neutrals, structured silhouettes, and modern accessories to keep the look fresh.
Do you wear pastels? I’d love to hear how you style them to look modern.
I never wore pastels till my hair grew in white and now I’m enjoying the lighter look for a change. I purchased a pastel blue sweater that I wore with black pants over the winter and just recently bought a pale grey/off white striped sweater to wear in the spring with white denim. Unfortunately our spring forecast is for a rainy, cold April and delayed spring-like weather until May!
Oh boy, hang in there it will warm up. xo
Where did you get those fabulous pink sunglasses?
Thank you,
Connie
They’re my daughters glasses I picked up off the table to ham it up for her photo.
I thought you didn’t like the word “frumpy.”
I don’t like the feeling it evokes.
I tend to wear pastels in warmer months with white, grey or navy. In the winter, it is mainly saturated blues, navy or pale grey. I like to wear a column of color but not matching, just shades of the same color. I have some beautiful scarves but never wear them. How do you wear a scarf so that it isn’t in the way when you eat or while brushing your teeth, or doing a task?t
You can double fold or wrap scarves and tuck the ends in.
Great info as always!
Love all these pastels. I’ve found that when my hair was really dark I wore pastels more. Now with my hair mostly silver I seem to wear darker colors. This gives me food for thought!
I understand that but I think they can still be worn stylishly. C
The description about the straw hat in your photo states it is made in China.
Indeed, it is.
Thank you, this is timely, not only for spring trends but for my age and coloring. I never used to wear pastels: thought of them as matronly and I felt they made me look washed out. I don’t know if it was the “quiet luxury” trend of recent years, or my gradual loss of color in skin tone (my hair is still only 10% grey) but I started to wear pastels in the last few years. I also discovered that brighter colors I used to wear well (like fuchsia and hot pink) could overwhelm, and I now tend to soften them with a scarf or necklace near my face. I have found that wearing a notable or modern looking piece of jewelry near my face takes away the matronly feel of pastels. For example, a necklace of large baroque pearls versus a dainty, more traditional pearl necklace.
Exactly!!I tend to layer my small strand of pearls now, to take away from its matronly vibe.
I recently moved back to MI from FL, where they wear pastels like no other place I know. I am eager to wear some of my things here soon, especially some pinks and greens. I am 70 and in the last couple of years I have found though I enjoy getting “advice” from different sources I truly appreciate your honest take on things. Also, I now embrace what I LIKE to wear whether it is in style or “in the moment”. And YES, jewelry makes such a difference, a pop of gold or silver can make or break your look. Appreciate your insight always. Make it the best day!
It will be so fun to dress for your new location Jacquie! Pastels are so perfect for Florida. Have a great day!
I rarely wear pastels although I do have a shell pink cashmere that looks great with black. I’ll be looking for the more saturated pastels, thanks for that tip. And those pink sneakers—Wow! I could do those!
I could do those too! I love that brand. SO comfy.
I appreciate you talking about you issues with dry eyes. I have struggled with that too as i have gotten older and had cataract surgery. I notice that you do wear eye makeup – whichI have found difficult to do without irritating my eyes even further. Would you consider discussing this – what brands you use, etc – in a future post?
Thanks!
Yes I can share more. I use clean products and never put close to bottom lid where my glands struggle the most.
Thank you for the hints, Jennifer. I think I need to expand what colors I think of as pastel shades. For example, I never identified aqua as a pastel before. Maybe I can find a couple of scarves to start with.
I always thought of them as just the “baby” colors but they can be so much more.
Love your ideas for incorporating pastels into wardrobes. Thank you!